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Yesterday, we looked at a checklist of things to consider when you’re going through your transition. One of the things to consider was if you’re acting just for action’s sake. Today I want to look closer at how you can tell if you’re just acting out of a need to take action or if you’re about to do something that will really give you momentum in your transition.
Do you feel deep down as if you’re rushing things? Is your gut telling your that you’re going to fast, you don’t know exactly why you’re doing this, or how things are going to help you in the long run? If that’s the case, listen to your gut.
If you feel odd, as if things just aren’t right for you, then you’re probably acting out of discomfort. You just want to get out of where you are, and you’ll take any ill thought opportunity to go anywhere really fast. That’s not progress. It’s fear bullying you. Make it stop. Now.
If that’s the case, you run the risk of settling for good when you really should be holding out for great. Look, your career- your life even- isn’t like the last fifteen minutes before closing before the bar closes. Don’t just grab something in desperation because you don’t want to feel alone.
Is the rush just too much? You know how it feels when you watch a friend start a rebound relationship. You’re on the sidelines, shaking your head. You know this will end only in disaster. What your friend doesn’t realize is that they’re refusing to take the time out needed to mourn what’s lost. And to sufficiently get ready for what’s coming next.
If there’s a rush going, you can just count on the fact that you’re acting purely out of emotion, and not thinking with your logical part of your brain.
Are you improvising in a really, really bad way? Sure, improvising is a great way to open up the Right Brain and gain some insight from your subconscious. If you’re in a situation where you HAVE to make a decision in a split second, improvising usually is a good skill to have. You usually make the best decision because you’re not agonizing by trying to endlessly weigh all of your options.
But if you’re constantly improvising, refusing to make a plan, then you’re in the process of leading yourself astray. No matter how much of a creative free spirit you are, you have to come up with some kind of fluid master plan. If you don’t, you’re sabotaging your own work.
And the odds are, you’re refusing to take responsibility for your own decisions. You start to blame fate when what’s really going on is that you’re abandoning your own need to think about your own decisions. And when it all goes to pot, you want to blame Fate for picking on you.